Is He Your Soulmate?

I took this quiz today, (even though i knew deep down what the results would be.) I often asked myself this same question in my past relationships, and came to a totally different conclusion. i don't think the words to describe how deep my love for Calvin have been invented or made up yet. But anyway enough of the mushy stuff, here are the results of my quiz. . .

You've found your soul mate ! ! !

Let the skeptics be cynical - you know that soul mates do exist because you're already with yours! Many women choose partners for all the wrong reasons - he offers financial security, the sex is great, he's romantic - but your relationship is based on the things that actually matter. Your soul mate is someone who you can see yourself growing old with, someone who respects and loves you for who you are. You have both kept your individuality, even as you form your identity together. You know that you don't need a man to give meaning to your life because you cherish your friendships and personal hobbies and activities. You understand each other innately and share each other's worldview. Many relationships end in a short time because the lust has fizzled out. But because you have such an intense emotional connection, your guy is always attractive to you, whether he's in his pajamas, brushing his teeth or in a suit and tie. You may sometimes feel more like friends than lovers because of your natural mental connection, but don't let that worry you. Continue to challenge each other in conversations and you won't forget to keep the physical passion alive.


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Are You Meant for Each Other?

Just-About-Perfect Pair

You two make a great match. Your relationship is healthy and strong, mostly because you work hard at making it so. You're honest with each other, communicate clearly and seem to respect and appreciate each other. These are all crucial characteristics of a good relationship. In addition, you're self-confident and you trust your man, which allows you to live your own life (and allow him to do the same), and avoid the petty jealousies and possession problems that plague other couples. Keep it up and you two will be together for a long time to come.





It never fails, every time you have an argument with your significant other, you question if your relationship is meant to be or not. You know deep down that it is worth the drama but don't really appreciate it until another person who might not even know all your "personal issues" tells you that he/she is perfect for you. I took a quiz today and the results were exactly as i expected they would be. . . (As if i ever doubted that my "Nookie" wasn't my soul mate. LOL! )

What's Your Erotic Personality?

The Romantic


The Romantic can think of nothing more erotic than being saved by someone. You aren't necessarily helpless, but the thought of being rescued makes you feel desirable and sexy. You need to feel sought-after and practically worshipped before sex can be on the agenda. You prefer partners who not only make passionate love to you, but also who'll know how to please you without any instruction whatsoever. Your lover's sexual finesse inspires you and heightens your own capacity for sexual pleasure. You're especially fond of people who can read you and deliver the sexual excitement you secretly desire.

* * * This is me right down to the T ! ! !

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Looking for love...

There is always a helpless romantic, just as the song quotes, "Looking for love in the all the wrong places." From an early age Jazmine Renee Lovall was no stranger to mischievous behavior. However, when the tables turn and boomerang in the form of broken relationships in her life, Jazmine finds herself in a perpetual state of "love" flux. Her quest in life is to indulge in the most essential human capacity yields hurt, distrust and revenge. Will she ever find love?

I FOUND ONE by Jakeshia Lewis is about pain, love and growing. It is about overcoming the pain to find happiness. The novel is a fast read, but the ending felt rushed, as if Lewis had to hurry to complete the predictable, idealistic ending. If the story had not been based solely on Jazmine being undermined in each and every relationship, I would have enjoyed the novel much better. Despite the very few problems I experienced with the novel, it was an acceptable read.

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Jazmine Lovall wants to find the perfect man, someone like her stepfather, a man who will love her for herself and not for what she can do for him. She’s not proud of it, but she will do almost anything for a scrap of love and affection. Jaz’s search for love leads her through numerous boyfriends, casual encounters and even a lesbian affair but nothing feels right and she often finds the sex is nothing special. By chance, Jaz hooks up with an old friend from high school days and thinks she has finally found the man she’s been looking for all her life. He comes, however, with his own complications in the form of a jealous ex-girlfriend and baby daughter. Trying to work things out with his ex, his baby, her own ex, and her baby becomes more difficult than she ever imagined. Jaz has a rocky road to travel before everything finally works out in the end.



According to the acknowledgements at the end of I Found One, this story is based on author Jakeshia Lewis’ own life and is something she’s long wanted to write. I applaud her perseverance in writing it and managing to get it published with a POD publisher but I wish more time had been spent on polishing the craft of writing. The storyline has promise but the grammatical errors are too numerous to list and greatly distracting from the plot. The story is also rife with punctuation errors. I Found One is basically a gritty, inner-city, chick lit story with a HEA. If the coarse language and the fact that the dialogue all runs together does not put you off, you will find a story of one woman’s successful search to find true love.

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My Weight Loss Chart

A few of you may know and if you don't you do now. I had the Lap Band surgery in March of this year. Losing weight for me has been an (adult life) long battle and the result ended in having the surgery done. I started at 290 pounds and my ideal and target weight is 170. Wish me luck ! ! !


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The Official Preview of "Not Work Related"

As I sat in the bathtub, i tried desperately to let the scolding hot water wash away my guilt right along with my tears and his blood. I knew I should call the authorities to let them know what had happened, but what was the point. I really wanted him to suffer; I wanted him to feel the pain that i felt for the past eleven years. He might have still been alive, everything in me wanted to get up and go to him but my physical being would not move. My neighbors must have heard the commotion and called the cops, because i heard the sirens drawing nearer. I heard loud knocks on the door, a huge crash, then loud, muffled, voices. With all my life force flowing down the drain, I continued to sit there oblivious to the reality around me, thanking God that it was finally over.

"Clear! Come on people work with me, we can't lose her!" "Blood pressure is dropping doctor; she's lost too much blood. We're losing her!" "One, two, three, four, five, one more time, clear!" Beep! Beep! Beep! Beep! "Thank God, what are the stats?" "Vitals are inconsistent, it's gonna be touch and go for the next twenty-four hours." As the heart monitors beeping sound slowed its consistency, I knew it was the end. Trying to steady my breathing knowing that each breath could very well be my last. A teardrop slowly trickled down my cheek and i remembered why i was here, slowly dying, wasting away, to nothing. "Lord; i confess all my sins, i give my soul to you." Beep! Beep! Beeeeeep. . . The Heavenly Father was calling me home; i accepted my destiny, my life flashed before my eyes. I relived each value and senseless memory, the seconds felt like a lifetime.




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The SIX Reasons people stay in relationships.

Possession. Sometimes we hold on to relationships simply because we don’t want the other person to be with someone else. For some strange reason, we feel as though we have some false sense of possession over that person, and them being with someone else would make us feel like someone else has something that belongs to us. This is a very selfish reason to keep someone in your life. It is misleading and trifling, let your mate move on and find someone who truly loves them and wants to be with them wholeheartedly.

Convenience. Sometimes, we hold on to relationships simply because we’ve gotten comfortable. It’s not that either party is truly happy with the relationship, but more than likely both parties have been together so long that they just settle for unhappiness. He knows her, she knows him, they’ve met one another’s family, and everyone knows them as “blank & blank”. Although, both parties may sometimes fantasize about a happier relationship, the thought of having to leave their “comfort zone” and adjust to another person seems like too much work. The thought of having to readjust is so overwhelming that they eventually get married and spend many more years unhappy. Life is too short to spend it with someone who doesn’t adore you. Everyone deserves someone who can love and accept them past their flaws. If you are in this category, you must realize that temporary discomfort can cause you a lifetime of pain. Get up and get out!

Fear. Some people stay in relationships because they are dominated and manipulated by the other party. Whether it be that someone has been threatened of violent repercussions for leaving the relationship or made to feel that they can’t survive without the other party, many people are in unhealthy relationships because of fear. The best way to overcome this fear is to face it. From a biblical standpoint, fear is nothing but faith perverted. Faith can always conquer fear, so in situations like this you holdfast to your faith in God, and trust that he will see you through.

Wanting to belong. Sometimes, many people find themselves in relationships simply because they don’t want to be alone. Most people that are in this category jump from one relationship to the next in search of something that they will never find until they come to the realization that they need to spend time with themselves to learn and grow as an individual. If you are in this category, you need to know that you should never allow a man or a woman to validate you. Value your worth and holdfast. In the words of ‘Madea’, “shut up and wait!”

Ignorant. Yes, there are a few individuals who are in relationships because they are just stupid. Their mate can cheat on them with their mom, cousin, sister, or dad and they will stay together. Some of these individuals even allow mistresses to move in and share the mate. I am unable to analyze this type of situation; if you fall into this category – you are what I consider to be stupid.

Love. Yes, there are some people who are in relationships because they are truly in love and adore their mate. They enjoy spending time with each other and think about their mate at least 5-7 times per day. Individuals in this category aren’t in the relationship for “show” or for monetary gain. These individuals have genuine love and concern for their mates. If you are in this category, you are blessed to have found someone who loves you for you. Encourage others around you to do the same.

Written By: Cecil Jackson Jr. (My Favorite Cousin)

Well my reason is sooooo obvious. It is love. Pure, unconditional, explicit, mind numbing sex, LOVE . . . . LOL

ALL about ME

Jakeshia Lewis is a twenty-seven year old, down to earth, Poet and Freelance Writer. She is a student of the human condition, wielding the written craft to enrapture the minds of impassioned adults, much like an artist wields a brush. The pages are a blank canvas on which to draw from a talent heralded by many and matched only by an imagination that rises to the task. At the early age of twelve; Jakeshia began to follow her calling of becoming a writer. As a result she won numerous local and school contests for her artistic poetry. I Found One is the first in a series of recent pursuits, with work progressing quickly on the follow-up. Jakeshia Lewis currently resides in Houston,Texas, where she lives with her Fiancé Calvin and daughter Keana. She also works full time as an insurance call center representative.

Chapter Two

Are there any good men out there? That question seems to roll off of every woman’s lips at sometime or another throughout their life. I know I’ve asked myself that very same question more than once on different occasions. My name is Dr. Lovall. Jazmine Renée Lovall; to those who know me outside of my office. You can call me Jazzy. I was born and raised as the only child in Houston, Texas, to some “The Dirty South, Home of the screwed and chopped music.” To the outsiders looking in, H-town was full of men with potential, and lots of possibilities, But to the insiders trying to get out, all the men were either gay, confused, in jail, or married. It seemed like the more I gave different types of men a chance the more I ended up with the same answer. I tried to date men that had the same characteristics as my stepfather James. When I was younger, in my eyesight he was perfect. He never lost his cool in the sight of trouble. He helped my mother raise me from birth and treated me as if I was biologically his. I soon came to the ghastly reality that I will never be able to find a man who will fill his shoes. So what else was there to do? I’ve tried the “rough neck.” personalities, all they wanted to do was be in the street life and when they remembered they had a woman, they would call me for the bond money. I’ve tried the “good impression on daddy.” personalities; all they wanted to do was look good for my father. It got to the point to when I thought looking good for my father wasn’t all they wanted to do for him. I’ve tried them short and sweet, tall and mean, with a job, without a job, fresh out of jail, on his way to jail, with a car, on the bus, no kids, with kids, shit, even the one who couldn’t read tried to run game. I know what you’re thinking maybe it’s not the men I date, maybe it’s me. I think I’m a pretty good catch if I might say so myself. I don’t ask for much, I'm just a woman who gives all and asks for nothing in return but love and affection. It seems as if every department in my life coexists around the love department. Not all the money, beauty, and success in the world could fill the void I was feeling for a significant other. I just wanted to find one. One man who would love me for me and not what I could do for them. I concluded that I would stop settling and wait until my soul-mate came looking for me. They came looking all right. He’s, she’s, it didn’t matter who, I thought I was in love with any and everybody that showed me a little attention. I was in love with the idea of being in love, even though it all ended in the same disaster. I would love, love hard, they wouldn’t satisfy me whether it be emotionally, mentally, intellectually, sexually, or financially, and I would get bored, cheat, then move on, and the cycle would start all over again. No matter how it began or ended, I was always the one feeling empty and incomplete. I would be the only one in the relationship doing all the giving, love, money, affection, etc. It got to the point, to where during sex, I faked so good, I actually thought I was having orgasms. A lot of my emotional dumbness I blame on my mother. Even though I also had my stepfather James; for emotional support, there is nothing like a mothers love. The emotional bond between a mother and daughter is supposed to be the seed that later on in life she will reap, if planted correctly. I mean that is the sole purpose of being a mother isn’t it, to not only show your daughter how to love, but also teach her how to love herself so she wouldn’t have to go looking for love in all the wrong places. It should be passed on throughout the generations, and one mistake can ruin the whole family tree for years to come. Maybe I didn’t pay attention during that lesson, or possibly, I was never taught. . .

Chapter One

Looking towards the horizon at the sunset, I asked, “Is the bubble bath ready?”
“Come in here and find out.” I could hear the smile in his voice.
“Oh it’s like that huh?” I said as I slid out of my robe and hugged my new husband from behind. I could feel his muscles flexing at the touch of my cool body against his.
“You put on just what I wanted you to.” “Baby; I don’t have on anything.” “Exactly.” He said with a devilish grin. He turned around and erotically kissed my neck, then slowly drifted to my earlobe and nibbled softly; a cold chill ran from my earlobe to my vagina.
“The water is getting cold baby.” I said testing the water with my fingers. “It’s about to warm back up in just a minute.” He stepped into the lavender scented bubble bath and I followed. As he sat down water flooded the floor. I stepped into the tub after him and sat between his legs. I gently placed little kisses from his cheek to his navel. Seeing how tasty he looked I engulfed my mouth with his bulging penis, and sucked vigorously, as if I was trying to suck the skin off. I released him and softly teased the tip of his penis with my tongue. After what seems like hours, I straddled him, and he slowly let his penis slide in. I jumped, to my surprise for the first time he was not reaching for a condom.
“What about the . . .”
“Shh, trust me, just go with the flow.” He stated as he began sucking my left breast, sensually popping my nipple in and out of his mouth. The flicking of his tongue on the peak of my nipple was taking me over the top.
“Oh bay you know how I like it, don’t stop,” I started first slowly grinding and sooner than later I was passionately bucking backward and forwards. “Oh yes, make me cum.”
“Not yet,” He then stood up with his penis still in me and carried me to the bed. “Now it’s my turn.” I anxiously spread my legs open as far as they would go, as if I am inviting his penis in for a bite to eat. He eagerly obliged my invitation. He placed my legs upon his shoulders, and then kissed my heels and ankles ever so gently; he then licked up my thigh and continued past my navel. I pulled his penis toward my womanhood and he entered me. I clinched to the feeling of his brim entering my wetness, as we become one. I pull him closer as he thrusts violently in and out of me tweaking my clitoris at the same time.
“Yes, Oh, Shit, fuck this pussy.”
“You like that?”
“You know I do.”
“Turn over.”
“What ever you want baby,” I turned over, ass all in the air, he then doggishly mounted me, I shuddered. “Go deeper.” I yell, pulling the sheets, and grabbing the pillow to drown out my moans. My breathing became faster.
“I'm about to cum baby, please don’t stop, keep going right there, yes, yes, yes, yes, Oh shit.” I lose all sense of consciousness, I’m in another world, I don’t want to come back, will never come back, will never. . . The phone rings. I turned over looked at the clock it read 6:30 am. It was the concierge asking if we still needed room service.
“I ordered the food last night; what makes you think we still need it now.”
“I’m sorry for the inconvenience Mrs. Williams, but room service called your room numerous times and the bell hop even made four attempts to deliver the food, no one answered the door.”
“Oh, I apologize, no sir we don’t need it now, we’ll order later, thank you.” “Once again Mrs. Williams I am very sorry and for the inconvenience. Please enjoy our complimentary couples hot oil massage in the sauna at the Royal Cabana, just let us know the time of your choice.” “Thank you.” “No, we thank you Mrs. Williams; and please enjoy the rest of your stay.” I eased out of bed quietly. I knew I wouldn’t be able to go back to sleep, he looked so at peace I didn't want to wake him. I slipped back into my robe and walked out onto the balcony. The sun was rising. It was so hypnotizing. So many memories were coming over me. I just could not believe I was here in Jamaica, on my honeymoon, with the man of my dreams. As I was being intoxicated with the picturesque sunrise, I began to drift off. . .

I FOUND ONE

Have you ever yearned for sensual written reality? Tired of reading books with the same story plots, knowing how the book is going to end? If so, then you will love this erotic love story based on real life events. So many Romance and Erotica authors publish books based on imagination, not this book; in I Found One, Jakeshia Lewis masterfully captured the real-life story about a young, professional, black woman dealing with the trials and tribulations of broken relationships, sexuality, backstabbing friends, and infidelity. The main character Dr. Jazmine Lovall; continuously wonders if she will ever find her soul mate, and when or if she does, will she be woman enough to keep him or her, without losing herself in the process. . .

True FACTS about Infidelity

Cheating is rarely about pure sexual attraction. Infidelity is almost always about more than just sex. Indeed, some of the common reasons that people cheat are entirely based on emotional needs.
Perhaps one of the most common reasons behind infidelity is the need for appreciation. Someone who is feeling unloved or unappreciated may begin looking outside their marriage for sources of comfort and affirmation. Occasionally, these partners even blame their spouses for their infidelity - rationalizing it as, "Well, if he paid more attention to me, I wouldn't have to cheat," or "If she can't give me the love I need, I have a right to seek it elsewhere." However, if you aren't feeling loved or appreciated in your relationship, you need to take responsibility for those feelings and discover what is causing you feel that way. Do you feel unloved because your spouse is spending too much time at work? Are you jealous of your boyfriend's relationship with his female friends? By addressing the true issue and being upfront about personal and sexual needs, couples can keep cheating out of the picture.
Another common reason for infidelity is revenge. Perhaps your partner cheated on you in the past or you merely have suspicions about his faithfulness. This might drive you to try to get back at your partner by committing similar offenses. However, as Gandhi once put it, "An eye for an eye makes the whole world blind." If you have secret anger or bitterness towards your partner, quit hiding it! Make him or her aware of your feelings and decide if you're able to forgive and forget. If you can't, it's better to get out of the relationship rather than stay and cheat.
One often surprising reason behind infidelity is self-destruction. Some people have such low self-esteem that when something good happens to them (such as meeting and dating a great man or woman), they think they don't deserve that gift. In response to such feelings, these people may go out of their way to self-destruct their relationships. Other people keep their feelings hidden, thinking "better to break their heart before they can break mine." Self-esteem and trust issues this extreme may require outside support in the form of couples or individual counseling. If you believe your mate is suffering from such feelings, assist them by offering your love, praise, and affection.
If you want to protect your relationship from infidelity, you must first protect your relationship from the silent killers - jealousy, bitterness, low self-esteem, and mistrust. The only way to do this is through honest communication. Reveal your true emotions and needs to your partner and encourage him to do the same. Written By: Dr Laura Berman (DrLauraBerman.com)

I agree with the good Doctor 100%. Me, myself, I need affection, and lots of it in-order to re-fuel and keep on going. I haven't figured out why but so far that is the most important thing (besides a good sex life, of course LOL).

What will make you happy?

That is such an easy question, which normally will require an easy answer. Not in this case though. We seem to be able to say in such instances that a certain thing or things will make us happy but when or if we get what we want, we see that it's not what we wanted in the first place, or that grass that looked so damn green and freshly trimmed on the other side of the gate, actually has an infestation of fleas and ticks. What I'm trying to say is when your with someone and you see someone else that your attracted to, you might really think that your life will be better with that person. That person might do things differently than the person your with. But who's to say that different is actually better. Now don't get me wrong if your with someone who's physically, mentally, sexually, or abusing you in any other way and the person you want to be with is not then move the HELL AROUND ! ! ! But if the person your with is at least "trying" and the key word is trying, then maybe your the one who has to pick up the slack to show how much your relationship has the potential to be the best it can be. . .

Am I Wrong?

I once asked the question to a friend of mine "Is it wrong to be exclusive with someone and think of another?" Of course he immediately thought i was thinking about him. NOT ! Now don't get me wrong I'm not trying to jump in bed with anyone else but there are those thoughts sometimes lingering around "What if this, what if that." I am in a happy relationship with a wonderful man, so why don't i fell happy at all times? Why do i have to pick and choose the day and times to be truly happy or to complain about what would "possibly make me happy" I don't know maybe i want my cake and eat it too. I am kind of fond of cake too. . . LOL